The other day as I was happily scarfing down a bag of chips, I looked down at my 21-week pregnant belly and realized something: I can no longer see my feet.
Two weeks ago, while I was singing at a charity event as part of the Sports Hobbies and Healthcare Fair, a cute little boy came up to me and asked if he could feel my belly.
“Sure!” I responded, smiling as he put his hands over the baby.
“Ooo … it’s squishy!” he said, giggling and walking away, leaving me to gape after him.
I keep hearing “there’s nothing more beautiful than a pregnant woman!” (mostly from my husband who is well-trained in this area), and the truth is, I honestly believe it when I look at other pregnant women, but sometimes when I look in the mirror at myself I can only think of one thing: huge. (Hippo and elephant also come to mind.)
Please, hear me out: I know I am so blessed to be able to carry life within me. And I’d gain 100 lbs if it meant my baby was going to be happy and healthy (sometimes I feel like I have).
But it’s a difficult for a woman to watch her body go from slim and trim to jiggly and dimply.
A few nights ago I saw a special on “Extra” about how Top Chef’s Padma Lakshi lost all her baby weight “in just four months!”
TV host Mario Lopez was raving about how gorgeous she looked, and can you believe she’s already back to her post-body self?
And if that isn’t enough to make you choke on your cheeseburger, model Gisele Bndchen just released photos of herself looking, well, hatefully skinny for Calzedonia’s Spring/Summer 2011 swimwear campaign that she shot a mere two months after giving birth to a baby boy.
Seeing these two gorgeous women makes me have mixed emotions. It’s somewhat motivating to know that it can be done. You can lose the weight and look great in a matter of months.
The question is, how far should one go to achieve that goal?
I understand that these stars have private trainers who work out with them several hours a day and nannies to watch their kids while they’re at the gym. Frankly, I don’t have that luxury unless you count my personal trainer as P90X and my nanny as my husband. So again, doable … but worth it?
After my first son was born in December ’08, I was actually surprised at how quickly the weight fell off naturally. Between breastfeeding, rocking or bouncing him to sleep every few hours and hiking him up three flights of stairs to our condo in a 7 lb. Peg Perego car seat, I was back in my jeans by March.
But my stomach still sported that stretched out, poochy look for months afterward. And I’m not quite sure the baby No. 2 weight will fall off quite as easy.
I definitely feel as if the pressure’s on to slim down and get back to “normal” as quickly as humanly possible.
Maybe next time I hear about some other celebrity losing 30 lbs. overnight I’ll get up and go for a walk instead of sitting on the couch complaining at how “That’s so not fair!” as I get up for a second serving of Breyer’s Oreo ice cream.
Do you think society puts an unfair amount of pressure for women to “look normal” again after giving birth?
Ladies, how do you stay positive as the pounds pile on during pregnancy? Are we too hard on ourselves?