What makes a mother?

In a recent press conference, Jennifer Aniston talked openly about her idea of motherhood.

“Women are realizing it more and more knowing that they don’t have to settle with a man just to have that child,” she said. “Times have changed, and that is also what is amazing is that we do have so many options these days, as opposed to our parents’ days when you can’t have children because you waited too long.”

Aniston was referencing her role in the new movie “The Switch,” in which she plays a woman who decides to have a baby and uses a sperm donor to get pregnant.

“The point of the movie is, ‘What is it that defines family?’ It is saying it is not the traditional sort of stereotype of what we have been taught as a society of what family is,” she said.

So what makes a family?

There are many ideas nowadays as to what a family really is.

I believe love is the core of all families. And there is an undeniable, tangible love that women have inside themselves for their families. It’s no mistake that the feminine qualities of gentleness, selflessness and charity naturally make us think outside ourselves, making us want to nurture and take care of others. I believe the qualities of motherhood are innate and unique to women. And whether you’re 18 or 85, those feelings never quite go away.

To me, a mother is someone who loves and cares for children who may or may not be her own. She gives of herself tirelessly, selflessly and unconditionally for the children’s well-being and happiness. She spends nine months growing and nurturing a baby inside of her or several years praying and working to adopt a child in need. She is sometimes single, sometimes married, sometimes widowed, sometimes divorced. But I don’t think it’s a mistake that regardless of their circumstances, women in general have a deep yearning to be mothers. It’s no surprise to me that whether you believe in the traditional idea of family or not, every human being ultimately yearns for the same thing — family.

The big question in the media since Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt split several years ago is, “Will Jennifer ever become a mother?”

The U.K. Daily Mail quoted Aniston as saying she is “on the verge of (parenthood) in some way … it’s something I long for.”

What does motherhood mean to you women? How has the role of a husband and father supported you? For you single women, what have you done to keep love and happiness inside your homes? Guys, feel free to comment, too!

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