Elin's story

I just picked up a copy of the latest People magazine in which Elin Nordegren is on the cover with a caption that reads: “MY OWN STORY.”

Inside is a whopping “world exclusive” 12 page spread where Elin opens up about her life, love, family, and of course divorcing the most famous golfer in the world.

Nowadays, when so many women who are public figures say they are staying in the spotlight because they want to do “what’s best for their kids,” Elin is taking the opposite approach.

Refusing to have her two children, Sam and Charlie, photographed for the interview, Elin says she wants to “shelter them as much as I can.” This was – and will be – her only public interview about what happened between her and Tiger Woods. She then wants to pursue her dream of becoming a psychologist and “find a way to contribute and make a positive difference in people’s lives.”

I admire Elin for the way she’s handled this entire situation. Keeping a very private profile during this disaster was, in my opinion, the very best thing she could have done for her children. She wasn’t nasty, she didn’t try to fight Tiger on TV. She handled the whole thing with grace, faith and strength.

It broke my heart to hear that she had no idea what Tiger was doing while she was at home with her children.

“I’m so embarrassed that I never suspected (an affair) – not a one,” she said. “The word betrayal isn’t strong enough. I felt like my whole world had fallen apart. It seemed that my world as I thought it was had never existed.”

Having an affair is a very difficult thing for any couple to try and work through, let alone multiple affairs in the public eye. Divorcing Tiger was the only possible solution after trying for “months and months” to reconcile. Elin said:

“Having your parents stay happily together would be the ultimate best thing for children. However, if there is no trust between the parents, I think it is better for the children that the parents split up.”

People often make fun of women for being “crazy” in relationships by “checking in” on their husbands or partner by reading their e-mails or scrolling through their phones. But after watching something like this happen to a beautiful couple, how could anyone not panic?

My husband has always said, “If you feel like you want to read my e-mails or check my phone, go right ahead. I have nothing to hide!”

But is that the most healthy way to make sure your loved one is staying true and faithful? I don’t know. I think deep down, you just have to trust that you know the person you’re with, and the truth will come out eventually. It would be equally damaging to a relationship to constantly be attacking or confronting your better half for doing something they have never – or would never – do.

And if in some cases, as in Elin’s, your worst nightmare becomes reality, she would be the perfect role model to look up to for how to slowly put your life back together:

“Even though I have been as disappointed as I have ever been, as sad as I have ever been and as angry as I have ever been, I also feel stronger than I ever have. I have confidence in my abilities, my decisions, and myself.”

Have you ever questioned your trust in your significant other or visa versa? What were some things you did to strengthen your relationship? How have Elin and Tiger Wood’s relationship made you think differently or learn more about your own?

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