Glamorizing teen motherhood

Spit up, incessant crying, poopy diapers and midnight feedings – oh wait, make that midnight, 2 a.m., 3 a.m. 5 a.m. … these are just some of the challenges that come along with having a new baby. Besides giving up your body, your social life and your sleep, having a baby is a completely life-changing experience that can be both extraordinary and exhausting-especially if you’re a teen mom.

One of the more popular MTV show’s called “16 and Pregnant” is coming back for another season on the network with a new name. “Teen Mom 2” features many of the same girls from last season, focusing on what trials they are now facing as young parents.

Having children has been the absolute highlight of my life. I love being a mother. I love watching my babies grow and learn. They bring me more joy than I ever could have imagined. However, there are many days where I feel overwhelmed with my daily tasks. Sometimes I feel like I’m two steps behind – the laundry still isn’t done, the dishes are still dirty and the floor is still speckled with crumbs and yesterday’s cemented-on oatmeal.

When my husband gets home from work it’s all I can do to keep from hastily plopping them in his lap and yelling, “It’s your turn!” while running for the bathroom for the first time that day. There are many times when I’ve thought, “How in the world would I do this without my husband?”

My hat goes off to the women who are toughing it out solo – an immense challenge that can break even the strongest of women. Motherhood is not a nine to five job. There are no time clocks, no substitutes, no vacation days. I’m bothered that teen pregnancy is being glamorized and idealized on MTV. As much as they say they are trying to keep it “real” by showing how difficult it is, the bottom line is they are giving these girls fame and money for becoming teen mothers.

Reading about what these girls are going through breaks my heart-not one of them married the baby’s fathers, and many of the guys who got these girls here have long since split. There are enough changes and emotions that effect a young girls body WITHOUT a baby growing inside. I can’t imagine taking a math and pregnancy test all in one day. I don’t know what it is about our society that likes watching people break down and hit rock bottom, but it really bothers me. These poor girls need counseling, support and love. Not a TV show.

Have you ever seen “Teen Mom 2”? What do you think about people watching and supporting the show? Do you think other girls will learn from their mistakes, or want to repeat them because it’s now portrayed as “cool”?

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