Do you consider yourself a good mother?
I love reading books about parenting. I like discussing different styles and techniques of rearing children, gabbing with my girlfriends about what has and hasn’t worked with their kids. I find that, probably because of the way I was raised, I have a distinct view of things I’d like to implement on a day-to-day basis — things I think will work best for my children and our lifestyle.
I think every mother has in her mind the “right” way to do things — with good reason.
I firmly believe in “motherly instincts.” Call it what you will — a sixth sense, mom-radar, eyes in the back of your head, gut feelings — but I believe that every woman with the welcoming of her first child into the home is given specific promptings and intuition on what’s best for her child.
That’s not to say we know exactly the most perfect and right way to deal with things, all the time. Far from it.
I’ve learned that raising kids is usually one big session of trial-and-error with momentary glimpses of success that buoy us up and help keep our stamina for the next day when things might not work our so wonderfully.
And just when we think we’ve got it down, God gives us a wild-card child that is so completely different from our other children, our husband can’t help but give the mailman the narrowed-eye once-over every time he stops by our house.
There’s a new book on parenting called “Bringing Up Bebe” by Pamela Druckerman, an American who moved to Paris with her husband and has adapted what is, in her mind, a “superior” way of parenting: French style.
This brings back memories of Amy Chua’s “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” where Chua explains very bluntly and boldly why strict (VERY strict) Chinese parents raise better, more accomplished children. I’ve read Chua’s book and found it humorous and brow-raising. I actually found myself agreeing with some of her philosophies — some.
I’ve yet to read Duckerman’s and am eager to hear what you think. Have you read it? What do you think of American-style parenting vs. international-style?