Last night I stayed up until 2 am watching Joaquin Phoenix in “Walk the Line”. I liked the story of Johnny Cash and June Carter (played by Reese Witherspoon) even better the second time around.
But. There were several parts of the story that still bothered me. I’m not sure how much is fictionalized and how much is actually true, but I know that Johnny fell in love with June while he was still married. In the movie, Cash’s wife Vivian (played by Ginnifer Goodwin) is portrayed as a bitter, nagging unpleasant housewife who is never happy with what Cash is doing. She tries to hold back his career, and is always picking fights with him about not being good enough, or not helping out enough at home.
Consequently, Cash finds himself falling in love with the sweet, tenderhearted, somewhat broken soul herself June Carter while on tour together. And the movie makes it seem so romantic, so right. Even though Cash and Carter make it through some incredibly tough times together, love wins out and after divorcing their previous spouses, the two eventually end up together and have what is considered one of the greatest romances of all time.
What bothers me is that the movie makes it seem justifiable to have an affair if you find your TRUE soulmate. And after all, Cash had been through so much in his young life with his older brother’s early death and dealing with abuse from his father that he deserves to finally be happy.
This is where I get a little unsettled. I’m not going to sit around and bash on Johnny Carter and June Cash. I’m as big of a fan of the music-and even the love story-as the next person.
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But does that mean it’s ok to cheat on your spouse if you know they’re not the right one? Or if they treat you bad? Or if they’re unpleasant to be around? It sort of reminds me of LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian who both cheated on their spouses to be with each other, and ended up getting married. Said Rimes of her affair with Cibrian and being the cause of divorce for two families: “I take responsibility for everything I’ve done. I hate that people got hurt…But I don’t regret the outcome.”
I was always taught to shut both eyes to other prospects after marriage-not keep one open just in case another guy comes along that I accidentally missed out on. I thought that was the point of marriage in the first place. You get married, you say “I’m done looking. No matter what.”
That’s how it is for me, period. Obviously that’s not the case for a lot of people.
What do you think about the love story of Johnny and June Carter Cash? Do you think it’s ever ok to leave your spouse, however happy or unhappy you may be for someone you think is better for you?