“Are you tired, rundown, listless? Do you poop out at parties? Are you unpopular?
“The answer to all your problems is in this book, Julie de Azevedo Hanks’ ‘The Burnout Cure!’”
I love Lucille Ball. Her Vitameatavegamin skit is hilarious, but in all seriousness, while there may not be a little pill or tablespoon of tonic that can help us women get healthier, “The Burnout Cure,” a fantastic new read by Julie de Azevedo Hanks, gives practical, spiritual solutions to helping women keep their inner spark and stay emotionally, mentally and spiritually healthy.
It’s a healthy dose of energy, an easy read, and has many different tools and spaces for self-evaluation.
I met Julie several years ago on a Deseret Book “Time Out for Women” tour. We have since become great friends and have had many great conversations about how to be/do/have it all.
Isn’t that women’s ultimate, seemingly unachievable goal? We think we can be Superwoman every day (and most do a pretty darn good job at it!), but no matter how hard we work, there seems to be an underlying guilt as we lie down to sleep at night. Have I done enough? Did I spend enough time with my kids? Does my husband know how much he means to me? Is my career heading in the direction I want it to?
I asked Julie several of these questions on a plane ride home a few years ago, wondering if I was doing too much or too little and how to really KNOW. She smiled and said, “You have to take good care of yourself! You can’t give to your children, your husband, your boss, if your well is running dry. What do you need?”
That conversation was a turning point for me. As a health and relationship expert and licensed therapist at Wasatch Famlily Therapy, Hanks has had years of experience both in giving and receiving counsel.
In “The Burnout Cure,” Hanks shares six “cures” for emotional burnout including “Feeling and Expressing Feelings,” “Giving yourself Permission to Say an Inspired No!” and “Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness.”
For example, when we are young, we are taught simple colors in order to relate to the world around us. An apple is red, the sky is blue, frogs are green.
But that is just the beginning. How many different colors are there actually in the sky during a sunrise or sunset? Apples can be red, yellow, green, pink, or a combination of all those! And frogs are blue, yellow, red, green, spotted, striped… The point is, to just say “I’m happy” or “I’m sad” may not adequately express to yourself or others how you’re really feeling. Joyful, upset, frustrated, mad, excited, disturbed, are all emotions that are OK to feel. Giving ourselves permission to feel and express our different emotions is one way to prevent burnout.
“Consider that emotions are E-MOTIONS or ‘energy in motion,’” says Hanks. They are not necessarily good or bad. It’s how we respond to them that matters.
“Life is about growth, not about comfort,” says Hanks. It’s OK to have bad days and to be stretched a little. That’s how we learn. That’s what life is about!
I’d love to open up the discussion to you women readers: Do you have a question about avoiding emotional burnout for Julie de Azevedo Hanks? She’ll be stopping by to give some advice and answer a few questions. If you don’t get your question answered, (and even if you do!) I would strongly recommend “The Burnout Cure” for women who are on their last ember and are ready to confidently declare, “Fear not, this girl is still on fire!”
“Let’s join the thousands of happy, peppy people and start taking better care of ourselves!”