Are Time Outs the wrong response to bad behavior?

I had just literally sent my boy into “time out” (the bottom stair) when I came across a video on┬áthat argues these time outs may do more harm than good.

According to a study conducted in 2012, the brain scans of kids sent to time out were the same as for kids who were spanked.

Elizabeth Hasslebeck interviewed two parenting experts mental health professional Stephanie W., and Jennifer Wallace, a freelance writer who focuses on parenting and cultural issues.

Stephanie W. says time outs are very effective for both kids and parents. “They are important for parents as well. We need a few minutes to relax and unwind, and figure it out together.”

“When you put them in a time out, you’re saying to them, “You think they are processing what has just happening, when the child is thinking, ‘Why doesn’t mommy love me?’ Instead of leaning in and talking to your child, you’re shunning them.”

Hasslebeck argues that in order to keep your cool, sometimes a time out is much better than lashing out physically.

“If kids are doing something wrong or acting, out, they need to be disciplined,” Stephanie W. says.

Although Wallace disagrees with putting kids in time out, she doesn’t offer any other disciplinary council.

What do you think about putting kids in time out? Harmful or helpful?


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